Tag: rock

  • The Skip Button Still Works

    The Skip Button Still Works

    On India.Arie and Brownstone singer Nicci Gilbert condemning the summer scam anthem, “Spend Dat Sh*t😎.

    Are the R&B/neo-soul royalty and internet thugs truly this agitated?

    This is no different than anything Yung Miami—either solo or with JT in City Girls —has released before. It’s no different than songs Megan Thee Stallion, Cardi B, or Nicki Minaj have put out. It’s no different than the music Lil’ Kim or Foxy Brown was making back when India.Arie and Brownstone were also releasing albums.

    So why is this suddenly the conversation?

    Is it my favorite song? Absolutely not. It never would be.

    So what does that mean for me?

    I don’t listen to it.

    Just like there are plenty of songs I don’t listen to.

    As someone who genuinely loves music and consumes a ridiculous amount of it, I have a place in my heart for people who know exactly who they are artistically and stay committed to that. Yung Miami is exactly who she has always been. This song reflects nothing more than the person she’s presented to us since the City Girls first became popular.

    I’m not sure why anyone is surprised.

    I’m even less sure why people are writing dissertations about it. Present company included😉

    Now let’s be honest.

    I love India.Arie. Acoustic Soul is a masterpiece. Voyage to India is also an excellent album. Beyond those, I can’t honestly say I regularly recommend her full catalog, but those first two projects made an incredible impression on me and I’ll never take that away from her. I respect her opinion as an artist.

    Nicci Gilbert is part of one of the pioneering R&B girl groups of the ‘90s. I’ve danced to Brownstone. I’ve butchered Brownstone at karaoke. I have fond memories of their music.

    I honestly have no idea what she does now other than lose a four-year court battle against the creator of P-Valley and occasionally hop online to criticize artists while people cheer her on.

    And to everyone who’s upset because Yung Miami publicly stood beside Diddy…

    Get in line.

    At this point, it feels like Diddy is probably going to get out early anyway.

    That doesn’t make it any less shameful. It doesn’t excuse her support of him. I think standing beside him was a terrible look.

    But what exactly are y’all about to do about it?

    Seriously.

    There are one million other conversations we could be having as people who ultimately have no control over what these grown adults choose to do.

    The argument that music like this somehow takes opportunities away from “real music” also doesn’t make much sense to me.

    India.Arie and Nicci Gilbert—if they were actively making music today—don’t even occupy the same lane as Careesha. Categorically, they aren’t competing for the same audience.

    And I don’t think Yung Miami is about to sweep the Grammys like Lauryn in 1999 either.

    Could she win a BET Award? Sure.

    A Soul Train Award?

    Maybe.

    A VMA if the video goes crazy?

    Absolutely.

    A Billboard Music Award? I could see it.

    But I don’t think we need to worry about her dominating the Grammy categories traditionally occupied by artists like India.Arie or Brownstone.

    Then again…

    Three 6 Mafia has an Oscar.

    So what do I know?

    As for the argument that music like this reaches the masses and promotes the wrong message…

    It’s tale as old as N.W.A. in the 80s.

    Snoop & Lil Kim in the 90s

    Trina and DMX in the 2000s

    Kodak Black and Nicki in the 2010s

    Yung Miami it’s just today’s version of an old story.

    Grown people are going to do what grown people want to do.

    If those grown people have children, it’s their responsibility to make sure those children aren’t consuming music that isn’t meant for them.

    There is no universe where I think children should be listening to Yung Miami.

    None.

    But we can’t keep holding artists responsible for parenting decisions that belong to parents.

    We can’t expect musicians to change our communities. That’s a collective job.

    If you want different messages in the culture, then put different messages into the culture.

    R&B is experiencing an incredible resurgence right now. Nostalgia is everywhere. People are craving music that feels familiar, comforting, and authentic.

    Instead of getting on Beyoncé’s internet crying about another grown woman’s rap song — a genre completely different from the one you’d be making music in anyway —capitalize on the love people already have for you.

    People are selling out tours performing music they released twenty-five years ago.

    Get the group back together.

    Release a new single.

    Flip one of your classics with a fresh sample.

    Do something.

    Millennials absolutely love seeing the artists they grew up with come back.

    But let’s also be honest…

    Millennials like ratchet shit too.

    We contain multitudes.

    “If you can’t run with it, run from it.”

    That’s what Weezy said.

    And while we’re talking about things worth being upset over…

    Our country is being run by a gang of rodeo clowns.

    If you’re going to spend energy complaining on the internet, maybe direct some of that passion toward something that actually impacts people’s lives—and then use your voice to do something meaningful.

    That’s not to say I’ll be standing outside the studio demanding Yung Miami release more ratchet anthems.

    I won’t.

    But I absolutely support her right to make them.

    Just like she has every right to release the song, I have every right to skip it.

    I don’t have to download it.

    I don’t have to add it to my playlist.

    Or…

    I can laugh at the memes and videos because, at this point in the world, I’ll take all the laughs I can get.

    This song doesn’t improve my life.

    It doesn’t ruin it either.

    I can’t relate to it.

    Sometimes that’s the point.

    But who am I?

    Just a lover of music.

  • I Don’t Collect Records

    I Don’t Collect Records

    Well…

    That’s not entirely true.

    I do collect records. My shelves would argue that point rather passionately.

    But somewhere between the thrift stores, the dusty record bins, estate sales, and the occasional financial decision that should probably require a second opinion, I realized I wasn’t really collecting vinyl.

    I was collecting stories.

    Some people collect first pressings.

    Some chase rare imports.

    Some are hunting for the most valuable copy of an album ever made.

    Me? I’m trying to build a biography.

    Every record on my shelf reminds me of someone. Or somewhere.

    Or some version of myself that I almost forgot.

    My sister actually got to vinyl before I did. I don’t remember the exact year, but somewhere around 2018 or 2019, my cousin called and said he was cleaning out his house. He had boxes of records from his own collection and from my grandparents’ house. My sister and I immediately made plans to go digging.

    He had gems.

    The kind of records you only hope to stumble across.

    When my sister casually asked if she could have his original pressing of Thriller, I nearly came out of my skin. I knew what copies like that cost. More importantly, I knew this one had been bought in 1982. It wasn’t just a Michael Jackson album anymore. It was history. Family history.

    That was the moment.

    Not when I bought my first record.

    Not when I bought my first turntable.

    That moment.

    I remember thinking, One day, when I stop spending money on all the other random things, this is going to be my random thing.

    Turns out I wasn’t wrong.

    Now…have I made perfectly reasonable financial decisions every step of this journey? Absolutely not.

    Earlier this year, I wandered into a record store in Hilton Head, SC and found an original, unused pressing of Purple Rain tucked into the used bins.

    No price.

    Never a good sign.

    I carried it to the counter and asked the owner how he knew it had never been played.

    He told me he bought it from an estate sale. The woman who owned it loved Prince so much that she displayed the album on her shelf but never actually played it.

    Honestly?

    I understood her.

    I laughed and told him, “There’s no price on it. Don’t break my heart.”

    One hundred dollars later, I walked out with it.

    Still my most expensive record.

    Still worth every penny.

    It’s Prince.

    Some things don’t require further explanation.

    But somewhere along the way, buying records stopped being the fun part.

    The digging became the adventure.

    I’ll never forget walking into Papa Jazz in Columbia, SC for the first time. Jazz was playing through the speakers instead of classic rock blasting at full volume. I immediately felt at home.

    Naturally, I started in the jazz section.

    Naturally.

    I got halfway down the first aisle before realizing there were records underneath every single bin too.

    I actually stopped walking.

    I looked down.

    Looked back up.

    Clutched my metaphorical pearls.

    And started trying to develop a strategy because I already had ten records in my hands and had barely made it through one section.

    If you’ve ever seen me in a record store, you already know.

    I’m going to the jazz section first.

    Every single time.

    Sometimes because I’m looking for somebody specific.

    Sometimes because somebody I’ve never heard of is waiting there.

    That’s how I found Ahmad Jamal.

    I was flipping through a three-for-twenty bin in Raleigh looking for Sonny Rollins when I noticed a cover with an old Cadillac beneath glowing neon lights.

    I’d never heard of Ahmad Jamal.

    So I did what I always do.

    I put one AirPod in, opened Apple Music, and hit play.

    The first notes sounded like closing time.

    Like sitting in a quiet lounge with a good tequila while the conversations get softer and the lights get lower.

    Like night air.

    Like stillness.

    I bought the record immediately.

    Then I spent days learning everything I could about him.

    That album also taught me something about myself.

    I don’t actually like noisy jazz.

    I like jazz that gives your thoughts room to breathe.

    The older my collection gets, the more I realize I’m not just buying music.

    I’m buying memories.

    Sometimes they’re mine. Sometimes they’re borrowed.

    Earlier this year, my great-aunt gave my sister a stack of original records from the ’60s, ’70s, and ’80s.

    My sister very graciously let me look through them before claiming everything for herself—which was only fair because technically they were hers.

    I asked for exactly one: Roberta Flack’s Killing Me Softly.

    An original copy from 1973.

    I took it home, lowered the needle, and sat on my living room floor reading the liner notes.

    Then I texted my aunt.

    Because suddenly it hit me.

    In 2026, I was listening to the exact album she bought more than fifty years ago.

    Maybe she danced to it.

    Maybe she and my grandmother played it while watching my older cousins run around outside.

    Maybe they laughed through Side A and talked through Side B.

    I wasn’t there.

    But somehow…

    Now I was.

    That’s what I love most about vinyl.

    It lets you borrow time.

    The same thing happens every Christmas.

    Well…almost.

    I’m still searching for an original copy of The Jackson 5 Christmas Album.

    Not because it’s rare.

    Not because it’ll be worth anything.

    Because every time Michael starts singing “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus,” I’m eight years old again in my grandmother’s house on Georgia Street in Vallejo, California.

    Some songs don’t just bring back memories.

    They unlock rooms you’ve forgotten existed.

    People are sometimes surprised when they see my shelves or wishlist.

    I think they expect to find mostly the music I blast in my car or constantly send to my friends.

    Instead, they find Ella Fitzgerald singing country songs.

    Jazz records older than my parents’ marriage.

    Soul albums passed down through family.

    Gospel.

    Funk.

    Singer-songwriters.

    Records that most people skip right past because they’re tucked into the bargain bins.

    That’s okay.

    They’re looking for different things than I am.

    I’m not trying to own the most valuable collection.

    I’m trying to own the most honest one.

    Because if you spend enough time looking at my shelves, you’ll eventually stop seeing records.

    You’ll start seeing my family.

    My travels.

    My first heartbreak.

    My concerts.

    My curiosity.

    My faith.

    My childhood.

    You’ll see the soundtrack to a life that’s still being written.

    And maybe that’s why vinyl feels so natural to me.

    I’ve always believed every story has a soundtrack.

    These just happen to spin at thirty-three and a third revolutions per minute.